Anyone else really wanna understand emotions?


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Xinnia
Anyone else really wanna understand emotions?
2018-01-26
I just want to actually understand emotions on a deeper level than I do. Does anyone else understand that or have any ideas? Example: My roommate has severe depression and the reason I live with them is because their Mom says that I'm good for them. They tell me all of these concerns and things that get them down and I just don't understand. I can't dredge up one bit of an emotional response beyond how I'm 'supposed' to respond. I wish I could actually be there for them but instead I'm responding how they want me to instead. Logic is great and all but I wanna finally be there for someone. I want to be able to hug my Mom and genuinely say "I love you too" back to her. Any ideas?
scarredlightning
2018-01-27
12:53
If, for a normal emotional feeling person. You can look ini a mirror and you will begin to feel the expression u make. So maybe try that??
bpaull
2018-05-15
16:25
Hey Xinnia,


I too want to be able to understand emotions. I am some one who takes near narcissistic pride in my intellect, so it confounds me that I am unable to understand emotions. I have tried observation and mimicry to very little successful results.

But I can recommend if you wish to make the people around you happier, that you continue to observe and strive to have the most realistic responses to their suffering as possible. I have found that physical contact helps with most things, an arm on the shoulder when they outlaying their troubles has often had positive results.

Another important thing to keep in mind is that their emotional problems will never be solved. It is easy to be bothered by their continual lack of resolution. Just remember you are not failing because you are not able to fix their problem, but you are failing if you do not continue to try to offer some remedy or easing of their suffering. I like to compare it to breathing, I have to continue to breath in order to exist, if I stop breathing out of frustration, I die. They need continual support, physical contact, saying things like "that must be hard on you" or your connection with them dies.



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Alexithymia - emotional blindness - is a personal trait which affects roughly 10% of the population.

Alexithymia describes the difficulty of people to perceive and describe emotions of others and themselves. Most persons concerned are not aware about this deficit and usually they are just recognizing it in contact with others, especially close friends, within their family or their partner.

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