Dating somene with alexthymia


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Lillian986
Dating somene with alexthymia
2018-03-23
I used to being dating a guy with alexithymia. He told me about his condition when we first met and told me not to start caring about him in any way because he will care about me back. Long story short we got really close and a while later he told me he loved me. It was hard for me to believe at first but I truly think he did. I fell for him, I loved him with all my heart, I still do...

I really betrayed his trust and we kept on getting into fights after I told him what I did. That last fight we got into I told him he was awful because he told me he stopped feeling. I regret it so so much. I tried apologizing many times and I sent him a long ass message telling him how much I care about him. He hasn't replied and it's been two weeks.

First of all he's very suicidal, especially after we broke up. He told me things like "I think of you the same way I think of air", he claimed im the most important person in his life and i'm the only one who has ever made him happy. I haven't seen him since that fight so I have no idea how he's doing. He self harms even when we were together. Im worried sick, he said he contemplated suicide last time we broke up...

So here's my question, he claimed he stop feeling and I read on a lot of alexithymia forums that people with alexithymia don't tend to miss anyone. Does he miss me? I just want to know what he's feeling, it's hard for me to understand him and I try my best but I don't understand what's going on in his head sometimes. I would be so grateful if someone with the condition would give me some insight into what they think he's feeling or what I can do to get him to talk to me again. (our relationship is somewhat long distance and the circumstances are complicated so I can't go check up on him in person at the moment).
Z
2018-03-30
22:12
The definition of Alexirhymia is the lack of emotions. So it makes no sense that one has emotions now and doesn't have after a while. People take air for granted and air costs nothing at the moment, so they take you for granted and you cost nothing to them, but as you are a stupid insecure narcissist you assume that you are so important to them that they will kill themselves for you and you cost more than a loaf of bread. Their actions are consistent with the case of stupid bitches. They gently manipulated you to pay for your sick behavior and now you wonder whether they miss you and love you or not. They don't give a shit about you. Nobody gives a shit about you and hopes you get a punch in the face, because if you had pure emotions you would go the distance to them instead of begging for your ego to be confirmed. Again having no emotions is absolutely better than having sick emotions and your ridiculous story is not the exception that proves the rule.

Immature bitches are always and all the same. Being at the top of the mountain doesn't make you a hiker. So congratulations to the blind that played tricks on you. I wish all moms have their sick ego hurt this way.


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Alexithymia - emotional blindness - is a personal trait which affects roughly 10% of the population.

Alexithymia describes the difficulty of people to perceive and describe emotions of others and themselves. Most persons concerned are not aware about this deficit and usually they are just recognizing it in contact with others, especially close friends, within their family or their partner.

These pages should deliver additional information about Alexithymia and offer information for affected persons, relatives and generally interested people.