People Assume I Don't Have Emotions


People Assume I Don't Have Emotions
I usually face this issue with romantic partners, especially the more emotionally attached ones. They assume that just because I don't express my emotions verbally, especially emotions like love and admiration, then that must mean I don't hold those feelings at all. Just because I can't identify or express my emotions, that doesn't mean my emotions aren't as real and present as yours.
I pass for the same thing, for me is really hard in relationships because everyone just assume that I am cold, and don't care about their emotions, but in fact I fell, but I can describy, I don't know exactly what those sensations may be.
People assume the opposite for me. Just because I am not a complete robot in my interaction, they project their own emotional normality onto me, and give me all kinds of benefit of the doubt that is actually wildly inaccurate - like I'm JUST reserved, that REALLY, I care as much as anyone else DEEP DOWN - when none of that is true emotionally for me at all. I find people prefer to lie to themselves about what is really going on here than accept the fact that those emotions are not there, and what that means.
People tend to judge others, according to their own standards. If they feel upset or happy about something they seem to automatically assume that others will feel the same way as they do.They therefore ascribe their own emotions to others, even to people who don't have them at all.

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Alexithymia - emotional blindness - is a personal trait which affects roughly 10% of the population.

Alexithymia describes the difficulty of people to perceive and describe emotions of others and themselves. Most persons concerned are not aware about this deficit and usually they are just recognizing it in contact with others, especially close friends, within their family or their partner.

These pages should deliver additional information about Alexithymia and offer information for affected persons, relatives and generally interested people.