Confused...
14.05.2023 von User4468bK82Hey Guys,
i am so confused. I did the test and got a score of 130.
I feel like I can't access my own feelings. I feel something is going on but I can't find words to describe it. Like I've never learnt how to do it. When I am with my boyfriend - he kept asking me how I feel in this situation, how does the situation makes me feel... but my answer is always "okay", "good", "don't know"... it is really frustrating for him and I can relate that he isn't satisfied with my responses.
So I can't express and name my own feeling but I can deal with the feelings of others. I can sympathize with them and I can read and name their feelings.
I don't know if I really suffer from Alexi but referred to my own emotional world all the "symptoms" fit.
Everything is so confusing...
16.05.2023 von NewAlexi16-05-23
hi, does he know about alexithymia?
I also didn’t have a clear understanding of how I was feeling. When people ask me how I feel, usually my real answer is "nothing" or "I don't know", but most of the time I know how people in general are supposed to feel, so they get that answer usually.
When you can read how others are feeling, responding appropriately is possible most of the time. Analyze and then respond. It just takes some experience.
Sometimes I ask people close to me how they feel, or observe other people’s emotional responses to try to infer how I might feel.
I find that often they may feel like you're brushing them off or lying when people don't know that you're not good at expressing your feelings. This may be why your boyfriend was dissatisfied.
To those close to me, they know that I am terrible at talking about my feelings. To me, it's a part of me, so they either take it or leave me.
