I'm interested in other people's experience with sex and alexithymia.
I've found a complete disassociation with sex. I haven't been able to have a close personal connection with anyone, despite trying.
Do other people with alexithymia have the same experience with sex?
I think I pretty much "manufacture it." I can manufacture what is necessary. Trouble is, I'm not sure what is "real" and what is "manufactured." And yes, I'm pretty much "splitting hairs." I guess in this area, I'm reluctant to say that I "fake it." Saying that I "manufacture" it is different from saying "fake it."
i have recently split with my partner of 2 years. It was a great relationship to start with, she was as she put it 'Madly inlove with me'. My self, I could put to her in words how I felt, the only thing I know is it was overwhelming. It was something that I hadn't felt before in a relationship. She's had a rough life in terms of relationships, violence, 2 of her ex partners tried to kill her. So understandably she had a need to be clingy, and needed to be told and shown how much some one loved her..... Sadly, I'm not that guy. Outside of the bedroom, I couldn't give her what she needed, and I couldn't give her that connection that she needed. Now inside the bedroom was a whole different situation... Sex for me has always been a wham bam thank you mam, but with her sex was different. I actually felt a connection during sex. The orgasm was so intense 95% I actually felt it throughout my body, and I had never had that before.
One of my ex's and I had EXPLOSIVE chemistry. Both of us were addicted to the chemistry. But beneath it all, we couldn't stand each other. We were too much "alike" it was weird......
I consider myself grey Asexual. I'm really only interested in ex forge biological release. It can be something recreational I do with another but a lot of times it may just be just that. It does not initiate an emotional connection. Orgasm feel great, yes, but I don't see how physical feelings transfer to emotions in terms of sex.
I really don't feel anything with sex, no attachment. Just a form of releasing stress and build up. And as a activity to have offspring.
for me and my parter sex is the biggest issue in our relationship. He is a fairly average man in that he would like regular sex, and enjoys sex on a physical and emotional level. The sex is usually good and I enjoy it when it happens, but it is very rare. I made a rule for myself that I would make sure it happened no less than once a month. But I don't think about sex and if I never had sex again I would probably be alright.
