Hello everyone!
I have just today discovered that 'Alexi' is a thing and what I am feeling (or not feeling) is something faced by many. I scored a 143 on the self-test and decided to register to understand this further.
I have read through many of the posts and am amazed at the similarity of the situations.
I just want to list a couple of things that I haven't come across in the other posts and would love your feedback in order to understand if these are within the scope of Alexi.
Extreme practicality - in dealing with tasks and situations. I just cannot put myself there to understand what another person is going through emotionally. I have a very logical and rational approach to everything.
Emotions - I can laugh at jokes but am never excited, depressed, or genuinely happy for someone else. I am not scared, surprised, shocked or startled easily. All of there emotions just cause the same restless, uneasy feeling, but that's it.
Relationships - Have a lot of friends. Have grown up with a lot of them (I'm 26 by the way). But it wouldn't make a difference to me if they all just suddenly disappeared someday.
Death - This one really bothers me sometimes. It just doesn't settle in. Everyone is there crying but I just don't get it. Don't feel a thing.
Now the following, I really need to know, if these are related symptoms.
Movie/party/concert – I don’t remember any of it the next day (No intake of alcohol :P). Well I do have a vague memory, like screenshots in my head. But no complete memory.
Food – It doesn’t matter what I am made to eat. It’s all the same. A burger from one place will taste the same as a burger from another. I really don’t care.
I sometimes don’t know whether I’m feeling hot or cold. It’s just so messed up.
I know this is a long post and if you’ve made it till here, thank you so very much for taking the time.
Topic: New to Alexi. Would appreciate assistance. **Sorry about the long post
31.01.2015 by ughlisha
I just discovered I have alexithymia too. I also have a very logical and rational approach to everything. I don't really consider feelings when I make decisions. I think of everything logically and what makes the most sense and make decisions that way.
I feel the same way about death too. I know this sounds bad, but I don't feel anything when I hear that people I know died. Death doesn't impact me like it does normal people. For example, I found out that my uncle died a few months ago and while everyone else was crying, I just understood that I'd never see him again.
As for the movie, food, and hot/cold thing, that doesn't really happen for me. Sorry.
18.02.2015 by BrutalBinary
Hi I also only just recently found out about Alexi.
Some of your post does ring true with myself.
I'm replying regarding the memory issue though.
I have really really bad memory. I have no memories from growing up and I cannot picture things that have happened weeks / years ago. I am in the 25% whom solely thinks with words. I cannot shut my eyes and visualise a red ball but I could shut my eyes and think about a red ball's properties.
This too was only found out this week that most people think with pictures! In my research it states both Alexi and Thought with words only can often be related. This is due to language / word thought being a left brain function and visual thought is right brain function, which is also where emotion is prevalent.
Can I ask what method of thought do you use? Solely words, mostly images, or both?
28.02.2015 by EmAus
Hi, I have Aspergers too so that explains some of my differences. I scored 148 and I have known I was probably alexithymic for some time. I do not understand why people are so upset by death either, especially when the person who died had been suffering terribly prior.
I am hyperlogical and don't get why people are so emotional although when overwhelmed I either cry lots or scream and shout (unpleasant I know)
Em