Topic: relatives..... ugh.....

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relatives..... ugh.....
15.01.2016 by DXS

I tried to explain Alexithymia to my mom. I used the following scenario:

"Imagine someone telling you that you are a horrible horrible person, and you 'feel' something but you cannot determine if you feel happy, sad, upset, whatever. You are unable to 'name' the feeling."

She said she understood. but then, she said, "Can't you see a therapist and get cured?"

AAAACKKKK!!! YOu don't get "cured" of this, you deal with it!

Her having to make adjustments and accommodations in her behavior are just inconvenient I guess.....

Feeling but not understanding...
17.01.2016 by FermiParadox

That is a very good explanation. I said almost the same thing to my therapist. She accepted it, but admitted she really didn't understand. I told her that I feel emotions, but they just happen, and it isn't until later, after the feelings have quieted that I can apply some logic to them or "translate" them. It takes me a very long time to really puzzle out whats going on in my head - weeks or even months, sometimes even years. I further described it as a very noticeable (to me,) disconnect between two areas of my brain; the area where emotions come from and the area(s) used for imagination, language, expression, etc etc.

BINGO!
17.01.2016 by DXS

You just put words to exactly what my situation is.

and finally...
17.01.2016 by FermiParadox

It is indeed nice to converse with people who actually understand what I describe. :)

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