Today in class we were asked to talk about how we felt about going to uni next year and why we felt that way, straight away I knew I was going to struggle.
I just copied other peoples, I didnt know what to say, I didnt really have any feeling towards it.
It's okay to copy responses from other people in this context. I think the majority of all people do this, alexi or not. So many of us have trouble speaking in front of people, its all we can do but repeat what someone else has said.
Its also okay that you don't really have any feelings about going to university next year. I can't tell you how many people have asked if I'm excited about some life event or another and I never have been... but this is the socially acceptable thing to do, to express interest in the lives of others. Its one of the big things we have to fake so as not to seem rude. It never ceases to make me feel weird when I'm in these situations, but it does get easier once you memorize the script.
Gads Fermi, you have a way of telling it like it is. My whole life was just a "Script." I even wrote a "script" for dating!
Oh, and the "how do you feel...." My grade school teachers used to put "how do you feel about....." as TEST QUESTIONS! The first time I saw this on a test, I answered, "what do FEELINGS have to do with the subject we are being tested on?" OF course, it was red penned.
I soon learned that when teachers phrased test questions as "how do you feel....." the "right" answer was..... "whatever the teacher expected to see on the paper" which didn't have a DAMN THING to do with "feelings."
Why why why do people do this? Phrase things in a way that has nothing to do with anything and everyone else knows the "right" answer except us?
I hate that question.
My answer is always - "I don't know, nothing?"
What's wrong with just answering "I don't feel anything about it in particular."? I'd hazard a guess that many people feel ambivalent about starting uni. Was it just because you didn't wish to be the odd one out, or thought of as odd?
I am always confused by this question. I actually make a point of self-checkout at the grocery store just to avoid the cashier asking me "how are you?" Replying with physical information is usually my response in superficial situations like these, such as "hot," "cold," etc. If the person is asking me because they are actually after specific information, I tend to invite "can you be more specific?" Which leads them to their actual enquiry - how was the event, job interview, appointment, or what happened with the car, etc etc. Then I can simply give them the information about whatever happened.
This happens to me a lot. People ask how I feel. I try to explain that I'm not really feeling anything at the moment, just feel normal. And they are puzzled.
DXS- "My grade school teachers used to put "how do you feel about....." as TEST QUESTIONS!"
Yeah, I remember that in school. I generally got the impression that this was a way for the teacher to score you based on their personal sense of morality or something. 'Any decent person would feel this.'
My favorite is when I'm asked to describe how I'm feeling using a numerical scale. Like, what??
