Whenever i get into social situations i tend to mess up and i make the conversation or bond awkward. It seems that no matter how hard i try i am simply unable to understand society or when i am supposed to display emotions. I keep looking for a pattern or a code that will always make me blend in.
If someone in a room "outranks" me in their job, I get all stupid and blubbery.
i think all you can do is learn by observation.
watch things, watch how the people around you interact with each other, read, etc.. just generally educating yourself, like you would with anything that is unfamiliar.
In my small sphere (work & home) I always know what to say. But introduce any one person or heaven forbid a crowd, event or party and I am rendered speechless. I have no small talk. I can think of nothing to say. My mind goes totally blank and people have literally walked away from me before.
Personally, I would council, be aware if you meet people for the first time and they shake your hand & then instantly turn their back to you. Did they have a perception of who you are & what you are about before hand? I only say this as I have experienced this on lots of occasions. If they didn't have a chance to get the impression from you, then where did they get it from?
I am certainly not advocating paranoia, but personally I feel that some close to me project an impression of me that sometimes precedes any conversation that person may have with me. I am gradually coming to terms with accepting that this projection may happen subconsciously and be well intended, to pre-prime people for meeting an Alexi, but it sure hurts to be invalidated by new people so quickly.
Consequently, I like to recall times from my past where a room full of people would be very comfortable with individuals that only speak from time to time, when a conversation strikes a chord. (Listening to the tunes one minute & then joining in on a conversation about why the world needs rules the next.) That person was just as valid when they were quiet and listening to tunes, as when they were conversational,
