13.07.2016 by sleepyturtle
Hi, I am new here and I think I have alexithyma. Through reading others' writings, I conclude that most people see alexithymia as a problem and seek help.But I don't see it that way.
When I first discovered this personal trait, I felt relief. Before I learn about alexthymia, I always know something is different about my feelings and my friends often tell me that I suppress my emotions which is very wrong thing to do for them. After sometime I believe them and try not to 'suppress' my emotions. But of course it didn't work, I wasn't feeling any different, anything. So when I come across with this website, I finally understand what I really have and now I accept myself like this, I am okey with this.
But should I still go to a psychotherapist? I know alexithymia can affect lives in a bad way. Relationships can be difficult for us because of this. I start seeing its affects already. My friends are having problems when they try to explain what they feel to me and usually they get frustrated. People tell me I am too cold. My family tell me I sound so fake when I am saying things like ' I am sorry about... I am happy for you, congratulations etc.' Apparently my voice lacks of emotions and sincerity. (I have to admit that this last one sometimes bothers me.) Even though these issues, I am still okey being like this.
So what are you suggesting? Should I talk to my friends and family about this? should I need help? I will really appreciate your advices and suggestions so please leave a comment.