Being aromantic/asexual if you don't already know, means feeling no romantic and/or sexual attraction. I myself am aro/ace (short for aromantic/asexual) and showing high Alexithymic traits, was wondering if Alexithymia might have something to do with being aro/ace. Though I have seen many forum posts about Alexi becoming a problem with relationships, I would like to know if anyone identifies as aro/ace with alexithymia.
I've never been romantic, I just don't understand the point of it. As a teenager I was interest in sex with others simply to satisfy my curiosity and also as a way of trying out the various things I'd read or heard about, but which you can't do alone. Once my curiosity was satisfied I reached the conclusion that an orgasm is pretty much the same, no matter how you set about achieving it, but if you do it alone you don't have to tolerate other people's company.
It is a mature topic… Your age prompted me to answer this thread otherwise I avoid such topics. You are very young, age 13 as indicated by the parenthesis by your name. I am much much older than you (an older adult). Yet my parent knows I am posting on this forum. It is good practice to involve our trusted elders so that no misunderstanding can get the better of us.
I’ve never dated, chatted or engaged in such activities/relations... it is not neccessary to do so. So don’t worry about lacking such attraction/feeling. Besides Alexthymia, there are other factors such as age, brought-up, moral values that should be taken into consideration. Concentrate instead on your studies and seek out beneficial knowledge that is age appropriate.
As for myself, I will search for a better source of gaining benefical knowledge than this forum. I joined this forum circa 2 weeks ago but I will leave it now; this is my last post.
I think your assumption that the OP is aged 13, based on the number in parentheses by his name, is erroneous. Why assume that he's thirteen and not me and yourself too? All three of the posters on this thread, yourself included have 13 in parentheses after their name. I know that I'm not thirteen and I rather doubt that either of you are. I have no idea what the significance of the numbers in parentheses are but age seems unlikely.
There are three optional information columns in the 'Settings menu': 'Gender', 'Portrait' and 'Age'. Given that the original poster has filled in his/her age in the 'settings-menu', the age of the OP will follow in parenthesis throughout his/her thread.
You can self confirm this very easily. On the left of the forum screen there are three headings: "Forum", "Messages" and "Members". Click on "Members": for each member, the filled-in optional information is displayed here. Then correlate the age of the OP with the parenthesis that follow in their threads. Those OPs who haven't filled-in age will not have parenthesis following their threads.
The forum doesn't have age-limits, we have kids seeking information here as well. Surely the forum would benefit from a defined and displayed 'code of conduct'/'forum culture' and an explaination of the given features (for instance, info on what the parenthesis with numbers mean), and an 'Admin' that estabilishes/maintains the code/culture.
So to answer your question: we may not be 13, but that is the age this threads OP has claimed for him/herself.
You filled in your age as 36 so why does it display (13) after your name? I haven't filled in any age at all so why does (13) display after my name. Using terms like "aromantic/asexual" seems a little linguistically advanced for a thirteen year old.
Neither I am, nor you are, the OP of this thread. Every post on this forum has the thread-OP's registered age in parenthesis. As you must have confirmed, the registered age of this thread's OP is currently 13. Therefore, presently every post in this thread displays "(13)", regardless of the poster's age.
There might or might not be a discrepancy between displayed and genuine age. Three possibilities then exist: i) OP is 13, ii) OP is younger than 13 or iii) OP is older than 13.
My take on it:
In the case of i and ii, wrongfully considering OP an adult might potentially cause some harm/confusion to a developing mind. However, in addressing OP as 13 (even wrongfully) there is no harm nor harming.
In the case of iii, where an adult is causing confusion through displaying themself as '13':
I believe I should not reciprocate the confusion by addressing OP as an adult while he/she is under the banner of a young teen. I presume an adult OP will then clarify the situation and ideally remove/change the displayed age.
It is important to give deserved respect to this age-feature, so the genuinely young members get an age-appropriate response when they post on this forum.
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS section
Ex.1
thread name: Spatial thinking
author: Sido, age currently registered as 47.
Consequently every post in named thread presently displays (47) after every post .
Ex. 2
thread name: Is Emotional Trauma "necessary" for Alexithymia?
author: Nebruchadnezzer, age currently registered as 16.
Consequently every post in named thread presently displays (16) after every post .
Ex. 3
thread name: Unable to read others emotions?
author: Cody, age currently registered as 19.
Consequently every post in named thread presently displays (19) after every post .
You stated that one should protect a developing mind or the young. Since you believe that I am emotionally blind or emotionally very underdeveloped or emotionally 13 year old, why do not you treat me that way, while I assumed in good faith that you are trustworthy and honest?
Do you love me?
Which are the reasons of your answers to the two questions above?
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HOW DARE YOU ! There is a sickness in your heart !
There is a sickness in your heart ! You are concocting lies !
I am celibate and have ALWAYS been celibate!
NEVER any hug or kiss outside immediate family (father, mother, sisters/brother)!
I NEVER met, talked or seen you! We NEVER hugged or kissed!
I NEVER LOVE YOU! I NEVER LUST YOU! I NEVER CLAIM LOVE OR LUST FOR YOU!
Regarding your confusion, talk to your therapist not to me!
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Understand this: I do not date, 'love' or engange in romantic/physical activities/relations. You are harassing.
So what are the answers to my questions? Your first or your second response?
You are the liar because your statements are contradictory, not to mention the absolute lunacy in your science fiction stories.
You are misguided by your desires, seek guidance. However, fair-mindedness is a prerequisite for that purpose since the unjust can not receive guidance. Read re-post another time, read it with a fair-mind (without emotional bias), the answer is there.
I could try to explain my reasoning by treating you as you requested in your post:
Abc quote: ".....I am emotionally blind or emotionally very underdeveloped or emotionally 13 year old, why do not you treat me that way.... "
First you have to promise to abide following:
1. acknowledge the filth you wrote and apologise. Include declaration of your intention to never repeat such filth.
2. you will keep all sorts of emotions out of the discussion
3. you will not use abusive/violent or 'I love you'-type phrases
4. you will be in best of conducts, display respect and good manners (kids and nuns should be able to read your posts and not be offended or harmed by the content, style or language)
5. you will adjust your behaviour when/as you are prompted
I could try to explain my reasoning by treating you as you requested in your post:
Abc quote: ".....I am emotionally blind or emotionally very underdeveloped or emotionally 13 year old, why do not you treat me that way.... "
First you have to promise to abide following:
1. acknowledge the filth you wrote and apologise. Include declaration of your intention to never repeat such filth.
2. you will keep all sorts of emotions out of the discussion
3. you will not use abusive/violent or 'I love you'-type phrases
4. you will be in best of conducts, display respect and good manners (kids and nuns should be able to read your posts and not be offended or harmed by the content, style or language)
5. you will adjust your behaviour when/as you are prompted
You are an ignorant psychotic and paranoid clown. You deserve to be loved for real.
Ok so, I posted this message asking if there was any trend with aro/ace people also being alexithymic. That is all I asked. To put apparently much asked questions aside I am at the young age of thirteen, but find it to have no correspondence to my question. All in all, I am still curious about my original question and hope to know if there is any relation.
I'm sorry that other people have hijacked your thread. I can't answer for everyone who has alexithymia, only for myself. Alexithymia does involve a difficulty in processing, experiencing, understanding or identifying emotions and as romance is an emotional state it would be logical to assume that some, if not many, alexithymics have difficulties with or fail to understand romance. Romance has no meaning for me, I simply don't understand it and as a consequence I don't experience it. I've already stated my views on sex, as an physical activity, in a post above so there's little point in repeating myself. Perhaps someone else can add more or perhaps they have a different point of view. I agree that your age has no relevance to your question, nor should it have to any answers.
