Conflict Resolution
15.06.2017 by rennypennyI believe I have alexithymia, and I cannot understand my emotions, or if I even have any. My boyfriend is the most understanding person I know, and has taught me and helped me so much. But after 2 and a half years of my lack of emotional intelligence we are always fighting. During fights my mind goes blank and i cannot think of anything. No words nothing.
I just want to know, how you all deal with conflict and how do you resolve it and make the other person feel better?
its difficult
26.06.2017 by DXS
Conflict resolution is difficult. I tend to say what the other person wants to hear just to get the conflict over. This is NOT the good thing to do. My needs never get met.
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27.06.2017 by SectionEight
I had a good example of this yesterday. My wife was upset with me all day and I didn’t know what to do. My incorrect assumption when she is mad is to give her space and leave her alone. Apparently this is the wrong thing to do, but I don’t know what to say apart from I’m sorry. Once I’ve said that three or four times I’m confused as to why she is still upset or how to mend things.
When she is mad I'd tend to give in, try and say what she wants so the uncomfortable situation can end.
I flirted with Love and she didn't respond. Then I accused her of being indifferent and negligent towards me and she was scared. After a while, I told her that she could be my mom and she liked it. One day I told her that I have nothing against her and that she doesn't love me and she smiled at me like a mom. I proposed that I hug her so that she is convinced that I am telling the truth and she hugged me. I felt better because she doesn't care. So the way to resolve conflicts with Love is hugging. She could hug me from the beginning and prevent all above. But women,especially moms, are surprisingly immature.
