≡ Topic: Just realised that I have a problem

Just realised that I have a problem
22.10.2017 by AdamJR

So I am looking for help. I have just realised today that I have a problem, I have always known that I’m quite anti social and I avoid going out and socialising all the time. I also struggle with showing my emotions and talking about how I feel and having meaningful conversations and expressing my opinion.

However I didn’t realise how bad it was until today. And it’s only today I know as my girlfriend who I have been with for over 2 years ended our relationship at first she just cried and said I can’t be with you anymore. As I began to ask more and more why she was so unhappy and what I had done she told me that she doesn’t feel like I care no matter how much I then told her that I love her. She explained that I never show her that I love her and she came up with certain moments in our relationship that proved this, I did not realise that I was being that way and the affect it had on her. This was the moment I realised I had a serious problem as I don’t want to lose her and I will do anything to not.

I am looking for some advise on how to change the way I am and open up more with regards to my emotions. Do I need counselling and should I see a doctor. Any advise or help with my situation would be great.
Thanks

Finding answers
25.10.2017 by KeiganN

Unfortunately there is not a lot of information regarding alexithymia. And there are not many professionals that have the background.

In many ways you will have to find your own answers.

I know I am Alexi, and from a relationship perspective I have learned about Casandra Syndrome regarding emotional reciprocation (lack of). Your ex- is probably empathic and has come to the realization that her emotional needs are not being met.

There are two types of Alexi; pervasive or trait which is based upon your DNA OR state which is environmental or trauma based and can be mitigated through therapy.

I’m Alexithymic and mine is Pervasive.