Alexi Relationships
04.03.2018 by LIGHT-uhlI just took the test and scored highly on it. I’ve had a lot of trouble with relationships; romantic, sexual, and platonic. I’m super awkward and never know what to say around people, especially when they’re feeling down. I want to help them, but I don’t know what to do/say, and I freeze up. In relationships, my partner says I’m blind to their emotions and that I’m bad at emotionally supporting them. I buy them things and go out on dates and constantly talk to them, but I suck at emotional support. Plus, sex...just isn’t interesting to me. Like most others, I do have somewhat of a sex drive, but when it comes to actually having sex with someone, I don’t want it. It’s unappealing to me. I’m very indecisive, and I like to make decisions with my head, not my heart. My imagination is very limited, so I have trouble coming up with solutions or ideas when asked. I try to think of things logistically to make up for that. I also know I feel a lot inside my heart and my mind, but I fear/don’t know how to express it to others. Does anyone else relate? What can I do to better myself?
It's Fine
05.03.2018 by Beej
My partner describes me as a 'computer', while she has a very 'feeling-centric' worldview. Logic, efficiency, and productivity are my approach to everything, and it really does carry into the relationship. I can relate to providing as a quantifiable and concrete way to show affection; we've been able to come to an understanding on that, at least. I am also very avoidant, so that never helps. I just never have a real emotional investment in things.
Honestly, we have learned that we can support each other in the way we understand the world, even with the fundamental disconnect. There just has to be a lot of patience to understand that disconnect never seems to go away.
What kind of relationship?
02.04.2018 by Z
Romantic, sex, platonic relationships are not the same, so don't mix them up. I think you are overly concerned about the negative side of the lack of emotions. You can always imitate emotions if this is the case, but it is not. I am in favor of pure relationships, but others usually don't.. feel this way. This is due the context that determines their emotions. For instance, a lady may love to death the mother-son relation, but the context does not allow her to feel and act this way. Another one may like romantic relationships, but what others say is the determinant factor on how she feels. It is clear that the concept of emotions is ridiculous, since the two previous objects would have the desirable feeling in case the collective consciousness were different. Emotions are artificial things that are caused or imposed by the collective consciousness. Understanding this is major step towards moral freedom. If Love wants to love me as a mom but the hypocritical collective consciousness averts her acting naturally, then blaming Love and trying to change her mind is not worth the cost, too effort for a minor change. So the thing is not to better ourselves adjusting ourselves to the artifical feeling the collective consciousness imposes on us (minor change), but to change the collective consciousness to the point that serves morality and cause or impose the proper feelings. Who can deny that pure relationships, mom acting like moms is the best possible kind of relationship?
